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Family.
That word is supposed to be filled with love and acceptance.
Sadly, in my case, it is filled with back-stabbing, anger, jealousy, and resentment.
From what I can gather when one person marries another his/her family accepts the spouse to be one of their own not an outsider. This person is accepted with love and respect. Yet here I am wondering where my family went wrong.
Let me explain a little bit more.
You see, every spouse (those of my siblings and myself) has been ridiculed, degraded, and/or hated at some point in each of his or her lives while in this family. It is not because of how they do things or how they act. It is because these individuals are "outsiders". The saddest part is that the majority of the instigation begins with the matriarch and patriarch of my family.
My parents.
I have been married for 13 years at the time I am writing this and there is one constant comment I have received from my parents. That is the one concerning their dislike of my wife. I love my wife to death. I think she is wonderful and I am guessing that is why they have such a distaste for her. Over the years of my marriage there have been times, on more than one occasion, that my parents have tried to coerce my wife and I into getting a divorce.
What kind of love is this? How can a parent try to destroy the marriage of his or her own child? How is this love?
Now I can see it if a spouse is abusive or unfaithful and they want to protect them from the hurt but this is not the case with me. My wife and I do are happy together.
Do we get on each other's nerves? YES
Do we get angry with each other? YES
These things are normal in a relationship because we are two individual people living out our lives with each other and there are times we don't agree. This does not mean we are not happy.
Do we hit each other? NO
Do we cheat on each other? NO
Well, we must be doing something right if we cherish and respect each other enough to not knock the crap out of the other. We also have remained faithful in our 13 years together. I mean, I must be doing something right. *wink*wink*
Here is my confusion. Why do they destroy something so sacred as what "family" should be?
I mean, I love my parents to death but if I continue my life around them then I am afraid they will destroy it.
If you can answer that last question please let me know.
That word is supposed to be filled with love and acceptance.
Sadly, in my case, it is filled with back-stabbing, anger, jealousy, and resentment.
From what I can gather when one person marries another his/her family accepts the spouse to be one of their own not an outsider. This person is accepted with love and respect. Yet here I am wondering where my family went wrong.
Let me explain a little bit more.
You see, every spouse (those of my siblings and myself) has been ridiculed, degraded, and/or hated at some point in each of his or her lives while in this family. It is not because of how they do things or how they act. It is because these individuals are "outsiders". The saddest part is that the majority of the instigation begins with the matriarch and patriarch of my family.
My parents.
I have been married for 13 years at the time I am writing this and there is one constant comment I have received from my parents. That is the one concerning their dislike of my wife. I love my wife to death. I think she is wonderful and I am guessing that is why they have such a distaste for her. Over the years of my marriage there have been times, on more than one occasion, that my parents have tried to coerce my wife and I into getting a divorce.
What kind of love is this? How can a parent try to destroy the marriage of his or her own child? How is this love?
Now I can see it if a spouse is abusive or unfaithful and they want to protect them from the hurt but this is not the case with me. My wife and I do are happy together.
Do we get on each other's nerves? YES
Do we get angry with each other? YES
These things are normal in a relationship because we are two individual people living out our lives with each other and there are times we don't agree. This does not mean we are not happy.
Do we hit each other? NO
Do we cheat on each other? NO
Well, we must be doing something right if we cherish and respect each other enough to not knock the crap out of the other. We also have remained faithful in our 13 years together. I mean, I must be doing something right. *wink*wink*
Here is my confusion. Why do they destroy something so sacred as what "family" should be?
I mean, I love my parents to death but if I continue my life around them then I am afraid they will destroy it.
If you can answer that last question please let me know.
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